Wanting to Move on

[NorthernRoots]

Thanks Guys for the insight.

As I write this she just went out to the bar again, wont be home till 2-3ish. 2nd night in a row.

I have tried many things to get her involved. The thing that bothers me most is she has limited to no want to take the inititave for anything with him unless he asks and asks and asks, then it seem to be begrudingly or purely obligatory.

All of the utilities are in her name as well as the apt lease, my name is on none of it. She doesnt drive or have a drivers license although I bought her a car 2 years ago and it has not been touched except by me. She has to take the bus or ride with a classmate, who by the way is a pot head and drinker.

She will complain about the bus and say to me I must enjoy seeing her have to ride the bus everyday and spend 2 hours getting to school and that I must enjoy having so much control over her lack of independance. She doesnt like taking responsibility for any of her actions except getting thru college.

When ever I ask her about anything that has to do with our son or things around the house all I get is a volitile response and says that nothing is her fault and she does nothing wrong. When ever we discuss something to do with our son her hackles go up and all of a sudden I am the bad person and ineffectualy father.

When ever anyone comes over its like this mystery person comes out and everything is wonderful and she is the epitome of motherhood and matrimony then when they leave mysery comes back, it is sooooo tiring.

Honestly, any moment could be the moment when I say I am thru and wait for her to go out and just take my son , get in the car and just split.

I am pretty much beyond miserable and unhappy, its at the point where I can see my life wasting away in this relationship and need to do this to save myself and my child.