I know what you mean about choosing to hope for a miracle. It's hard for me to give up. I think I would have to be served with papers to actually start to give up.
If she takes the job, then it sounds like she may be too far gone for anything to make a difference - it sounds like she wants to get away, thinking the grass is greener..maybe, being away would make her see that she made a big mistake.
Coming from a female perspective, a woman that says that just watns to be gone - done and over wtih. Doesn't want to deal with any of it - so, it's easier for her to run away than deal.
Me:36 H:38 Together: 20 years Married: 16 years Kids: 13 & 10 yr. old Discovered affair: 1/10 H denies affair. Refuses to save marraige. Divorce filed: December 2010