"OK need and want...good distinction....but I do ask again: how does one know when they are ready? I mean for me, I was up and down with to date or not...I was actually SCARED that dating meant relationship which meant rejection. Also that if I dated, I would be moving on."
Right on, newmama! I know it's always said that your spouse is only one person who has rejected you but c'mon...that was the most trusted R you've probably ever had and then bang you're living in a little apartment with a turtle (oh right, that's me!). It is a huge rejection and it's pretty darn natural to fear that any coming R will result in rejection. Let's face it, the person who knows you best in the whole world dumped your ass on the curb with the trash. That's darn traumatic! Now, of course, there is someone out there for each of us and we have to get by the fear to find that person but it's a process which takes time, longer than four or five months Romeo! Thanks for posting that newmama.
