Running out of time.

[ClingingToHope]

My church has a Celebrate Recovery ministry on Friday nights and I went to my first one. One of the groups they offer is people trying to heal from codependency issues.

It was my first night, but I usually learn something. I learned Friday that minimizing contact with STBXW is crucial right now because she can't win right now.

If she's nice, my brain will start racing with thoughts of "is she softening? Is the old STBXW coming back?" I haven't let go yet.

I've got similar feelings to you on selling the family home as well.

If she's a b*tch then those thoughts aren't there but are relationship only deteriorates further, which isn't good for the girls.

I've got a lot to process before anything changes with STBXW and maybe down the road I'll be OK around her. For now, if I didn't see or talk to her for six months that'd be great. The girls would notice it though.

It's a tough situation.