I always had excuses as to why we could not have children in the past while she wanted to. From school, work to finances I continues to tell her that now is not the time. It then got to a point where I started to use her physical appearance as an excuse not to have children (I became a terrible person). So when I tell her now that I want to just not right now she thinks of me as being OIN of the past.
Oh please. This is different and she KNOWS it is; she's not STUPID, Officer. Less than a month ago she was openly wanting to divorce you. There are all kind of DBing topics we debate around here, with all kinds of views. I can only think of maybe THREE that are near-unanimous:
1. Don't move out of your own marital bed, or your own home.
2. It never hurts to get a good legal consultation.
3. Don't intentionally add a baby to the mix when you're still in the crisis stage of DBing, or still tender in the reconcilation process.
