W said "Nothing is going to be like it was" I told W "I understand that and I agree, I don't want things to be like they were" then I went on to say "I think we should establish better communication between each other, it is OK for a H/W to tell the other what it is they want or need..." then I went on to say (which I probably should not had) "...what is it you want from me" and W replied "To feel loved and feel like I am everything"
OIN, I'm a little confused. If the conversation went down like you wrote, you should be doing backflips. You asked her what she needed, and she told you. No arguments or blame, just what she needed to feel loved.
Listen, really listen to what she's saying. What is her love language, and do you know how to speak it? She WANTS you to meet her needs. You're on the right path. You CAN do this.
(And to think, they call ME Eeyore... )
Those are the words we exchanged but it tone of our voices were not as pleasant...
I don't know W's love language I read the 5LL book twice and even asked W "Thinking back, is there a time where I did or said something that truly made you feel loved by me" W did not/still has not answered the question. I think this is where the tension stems from...I feel as if my efforts have no impact or in other words I am speaking the wrong LL and cannot find the right one.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
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