Hi Goodman - I posted in Newcomers, LRT and Divorce Remedy. Newcomers seems the most active.
My M has been a SSM for a while. My H will say it is all my fault - I would say it's both. The M has always been rocky.
How long has your M been on the downswing? I too can be very stubborn. I'm 45 and H is 51.
It's so hard not to talk about the R. I haven't completely mastered that - tried a bit this morning and he got his back up. He's out for a walk right now so I ran to the computer to check in. At least I've stopped crying.
Your W does sound confused to me, but I don't want to give you false hope since I don't know her at all. I never thought my H would go to an atty and here we are.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.