Thanks Rob,

I will have the time to prepare for tomorrow, and yes I have the balls to stand up to her. Whe we separated 3 years ago, i waffled at first, then put my foot down, and told her I packed your stuff and go beo with your OM. It was ugly then, Im trying to make it less ugly now, but after reading more and more info, I have to stay firm and let her do what she needs to do. Thank you for the brutally honest approach I do need it from time to time.