I agree with you that OIN should be FAR more positive (and less paternal, too, btw) around his wife.
I also think there's no way in Hell they should be having a baby yet at this tender stage of their reconcilation. Just a few weeks ago several of us were seriously wondering if his wife has serious mental health issues (to go with all of her physical health issues). I still hold this view.
This doesn't mean he needs to throw WATER on it when she brings it up -- he can artfully dodge with a "I would like to eventually have children, too; let's just take this slow and steady, okay?" -- but that would be it, in my opinion.
I've followed his sitch from the start, and I'm in agreement with everything you've been coaching here -- 'cept for the baby part.
Which, OIN, begs the question and I'm sorry to be so personal, but it's certainly germane to the topic at hand:
Was this protected, or UN-protected sex your wife and you had?
