Training for a Marathon, Hoping for a Sprint

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Thanks, Puppy. It went about the way I expected, except it was a lot harder on her than I thought it would be. Definitely more tears from her than me. She didn't understand why I wanted all of her stuff out of the house. I held my ground and said "you don't quit a job but keep stuff in the office to go back and get when you need to and you aren't doing that to me with our M." When she said she had no place for the stuff, I told her to rent a storage locker. I reiterated that she was welcome to keep everything here if the affair ended and she was in her own apt., but not in the current situation.

She agreed to the spreadsheet I had set up for the splitting of the bills, which was very surprising to me. She makes roughly 2/3 of our income, so I saddled her with 2/3 of the debt. Once I explained my rationale, she not only understood, but asked if there was something else she could pay that would help me out.

I helped her load up her car with all of her stuff before she left. Actually, I loaded most of it while she wandered through the house like a lost child. She just hadn't thought through how hard it was going to be when this happened. Before she left, I thanked her for 25 great years and told her I wouldn't forget a moment. In the course of the morning I had told her that in her current sitch I wouldn't talk to her about anything but finances, the dogs, and our son. However, if her sitch changes I would love to date her and see if a new R was something we could build. I know, PURSUING, but I still give myself a B+ for the morning.