Plus I read that she said she calls Lance Armstrong (her ex) her 'wasband' because she hates the negative sound of 'ex'. She said her kids used to giggle whenever she said it. I like it. Wasband.
I try never to use the word "ex" when talking about wife (well, in actual fact she isn't my ex yet but...) Usually when I'm mentioning her it's in relation to our children anyway so I'll say "my children's mother". I read somewhere that you should refer to people by what they are not by what they are not. I really hate the word "ex" as it just sounds like something meaningless that has been discarded. Well, 17 years was not meaningless to me and therefore she will remain "my children's mother". That part will never be "ex"! Btw, the book looks wonderful, I hope it blesses you!
Wow, God sure does like to see if we mean it when we say things can only get better, doesn't He?
Sigh...
No major problems. However as soon as I posted my mom called to tell me another family saga...her FOO is so messed up. I told her I know, what do you think I spend half of my counseling time talking about!?! They are all about co-dependency, needing to be needed, the neediest in the bunch/most screwed up gets the attention and the love.
Anyway dying Uncle was pressured by lazy, convicted felon/rapist/courtmartialed-marine uncle to let him move back in to my deceased grandma's house bc he couldn't make the $500/mo payments on his rental. Mind you he is 50 years old and has a full time job as a mover. However he told moving company he didn't want any out of town jobs so last week he only worked one day. Nice.
Anywho...dying uncle somehow managed to get a $30K loan to add a wing to grandma's house. Which is where dying uncle and 50 yr old Martyr/Caregiver Aunt have lived for 30+ years; they were there when grandpa died and were told they had to live there to 'take care of grandma'...who was 50 herself at the time and shouldn't have needed taking care of!! (Other uncle in story was not around for that as he was still serving time in prison. Did I mention we spent summer vacations traveling the US visiting him at different prisons? Honestly. I was lied to by my own mom and told we were going to visit Uncle at the military base. Hey, big fences, barbed wire, everyone in the same outfit, I bought it! But I digress...)
Anyway Lazy Uncle promised Dying Uncle he would make the house payments $300/mo for the life of the loan. But now he doesn't want to work. And he added cable and internet service which means more bills...you can see where this is going. Mom fears that caregiver aunt will be homeless if/when the house if foreclosed upon pending uncle #1's death and uncle #2's failure to pay.
I told her it may be the best thing that ever happened to caregiver aunt if she is allowed/allows herself to stop being a martyr, get out there and get an actual job to support herself instead of relying on income from uncle...
Sorry, it was a long story but gives you a glimpse into the joy that is my life.
(mom said I was her therapy for the day which was nice, I told her that her family members had to break the martyr-victim cycle and stand up for themselves)
Then I hop on Facebook and am greeted by a post from Long Lost Cousin (mid 40s) who disappears from existence for long stretches of time and reappears when he wants something. He got his 20-something gf pregnant so he wants to have 'family support' now of their situation. Nevermind he gave his 20 yr old son to his sister years ago bc he and his ex didn't feel like taking care of him..
Anyway he popped up to ask why some of his family was fb friends with two of our cousins. Their dad is/was my uncle, he passed away 5 yrs ago. At that point my aunt (his widow) and their two sons (my cousins) disowned our family, talked trash about grandma--allegedly, I never heard it--etc.
Well said cousins emailed me apologetically 6 months ago and asked if we would forgive them and be friends again. I agreed bc hey, everybody screws up. Well Convict/Lazy Uncle has made it a vendetta, going around seeing which family memebers ARE/ARE NOT 'friends' with said cousins and removing any of us who are, not coming to events if we will be there, etc. And he is trying to build up sides.
Anyway reappearing cousin asks on FB if we could all just 'eliminate' said people from our friends list in honor of grandma?? That opened can of worms and many posts have been sent back/forth on the issue. I am just too old for such juvenille crap!
OK back to my kids and my happy time. Thanks for letting me vent!!!
YES!!! In fact after relaying the "summer vacation/prison visit" tale with my IC a month or so ago, she again told me how impressed she was with my mindset having been raised in such an 'unhealthy' family environment.
I have it good. I do. But you know what? They could, too. If they wanted to make the effort. Easier to b!tch and moan about how good others have it. That's why I am not big on the social justice theory. I give to charities out of my own sense of need. I am not compelled to give by others, I give freely. Many of my family expect for those with more to automatically give what they have to the rest, even if the rest are without by choice. Ugh.
Anyway, yes the curse of facebook. The last post was too long to include this, but in fact as I was posting a reply on FB, I got a popup thing that said I had malware on my computer. It wouldn't let me shut down, x out, etc. I googled the 'security software' it was trying to sell me on my home computer--the one I am using now. It said it was a nasty spyware program. Designed to scare you into downloading its 'security software' so it could have access to everything in your hard drive...passwords, financial info, etc.
So based on the advice given by my computer, it said I should go up, pull a couple fancy maneuvers to get my laptop restarted on 'safe mode', then go in and do a System Restore to an earlier date, pre-infestation.
Ok. Well. I did that, and was rather proud of myself. However now when restarting in safe mode--and I know it is bc the four corners of the monitor say 'safe mode' ;), the computer does not acknowledge my username/password as valid. My fear is that this is bc it is a school-owned computer. My info is good enough to start in normal form, but I wonder in safe mode if you have to have administrator rights to log in?!
Crap. Now I HAVE to tell our IT guy. Hope they don't take my computer away for letting it get almost-I hope-infected.
Quick, put it under the rear tire of your new car, back over it and when you bring it in they'll never know it was almost infected! Don't thank me, I'm just trying to help out here.
Crap. Now I HAVE to tell our IT guy. Hope they don't take my computer away for letting it get almost-I hope-infected.
You can run but you can't hide from us evil IT guys muahahaha
Try logging in with username: Administrator and no password. If your IT guys are lazy this will work. BUT you don't really have to go to the Safe Mode to do that. Are you running XP? If so just go to Start-All Programs-Accessories-Systems Tools-System Restore - check to see how many restore points are available and pick the one you think will be the pre-infection one. Keep in mind anything you did since then will be lost.
Was the popup just a web-browser popup window? If so they're almost always fake. But since you said you couldn't X out then it may not have been. Just let your IT guy fix it for you? We love to help girls out...especially the recently single ones LOL!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Wii, I like the way you think; however I am responsible for the computer since I checked it out for summer use. I don't want to have to buy a new one!
Romeo, I will try the 'administrator' password thing. We had a useless IT guy but just got a new, better one a few months back...I can't do the system restore now, because I can't get to my desktop (yes it is XP) without passing the log-in screen. No successful log-in, no system restore or anything else.
Good luck with the computer BBJ. I had that same thing on my desktop (thanks to Marc) and I finally gave up and ended up wiping my hard drive entirely. Thankfully I had everything stored on an external hard drive.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
They are all about co-dependency, needing to be needed, the neediest in the bunch/most screwed up gets the attention and the love. 
But I digress...)
Thanks for letting me vent!!!
