The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

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During this time W had said ILY... since then W has not said it.


Are you saying she said she loved you Friday when having intercourse? Do you you mean she hasn't said I love you since then?

Yes everything happened on Friday.

Yes, during our intimate moment W said "ILY" a few times. During one of those times I said it in return.

Now here is the thing. W is so set on starting a family and I am set on building a healthy loving R/M. I cannot imagine bringing a child into a situation or state our marriage is currently in.

W speaks about how we are going to "take the steps we need to take" but yet her actions do not back up her words. I know it will take time and I know I should live in the moment but I feel rushed and told W this.

So after our intimate moment I asked W "how do you feel about me" W told me "ILY, I always have." I then told W my concerns about my concerns of starting a family before we even get the chance to work on us. W said that we would take the steps we need to take and if the family happens, then we will take it as it comes.

I had to go to work, running late actually so I got ready. I was leaving for work, W said "be careful" and I responded "I will and if you need anything just call or txt." W said "OK"

Later in the night W called me, we spoke for a few minutes. W told me how she was feeling (physically). I told W how my night was going so far and then we ended the call with an exchange of "goodnight and ILY" The ILY slipped out and W did say it in return.

In the morning when W was leaving for work (I am still at work 3am). W called me, W told me about our dog misbehaving during the night. I asked W what had she packed for lunch and she told me. After that brief conversation W and I ended the call with W me saying to W "careful on your drive in to work" (W said someone had cut her off while we were talking which prompted me to say that). We exchanged "Bye" and nothing more...end of call.

W gets to work then she txt how she was pulled over on the way into work...

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Sorry for the lack of commentary I honestly don't remember everything that was said and when it was said. I was caught up in the moment and then rushed off to work. When I returned home from work I made the above post.

As for being happy around the W, I am. I tell W how excited I am about the trip. I talk to W about it everyday.

We BOTH plan everything we do way ahead of time. That is something we have in common. Where we differentiate is W is optimistic and I become pessimistic. For example; W wants to go on this trip and is planning out everything, I want to go on this trip and well and help plan but I also wonder "where are we getting the money." W wants to have children and as do I but I want to take parenting classes (so does W) and work on R first, W just says "It'll all be OK" I can't see the "OK" in having children in a struggling marriage while planning an expensive trip...how about we plan the trip work out our finances, go on the trip and have a great time then consider where we go from there...