Oh . . . one more thing . . . it can help to really work on building your social network. Between giving my job, husband, and daughter time, I hadn't put much time into friendships which meant I didn't have a strong social network when this all came to light. I have been approaching finding social things to do like it's my job. Staying busy and having plenty of outings is helpful to me. It also gives me more to talk about than my R situation - more I get out with friends, the more interesting I become because silly things happen and then I have stories to tell later. For example, I recently met a friend for lunch, had a couple mojitos there, ended up buying dancing boots (you know the kind) while I was buzzed in the mall . . . makes for a good story later too. Mkaing time to hang with friends and be a little irresponsible (but not too much!) at times can help . . .
