I'm so sorry, NLG. I'd be inclined to cut the trip short, but that's just me.
Is this trip just the two of you? Anything YOU'D like to do while you're there, that you could go do on your own, or even just suck it up and do together, knowing in your own heart you're doing it for YOU? Cuz I think this falls into the category of "there's no sense punishing YOURSELF for what your WIFE is doing."
Have you ever, while NOT in the heat of the moment, sat down and decided heading into this reconcilation period how many "strikes" you're willing to tolerate? I always advise people to do this. Maybe it's:
- ONE, but only if it's self-confessed.
or
- ONE, and if not self-confessed, so long as she tells the truth when confronted.
or
- TWO
or
- ZERO
or
- Something else?
Because I've found that these are the times -- when your gut's churning with the discovery of the reconflagration -- that you do NOT want to be making such important decisions. It's best if you've ALREADY decided what your boundary is going to be, and even better if that's been communicated to your wife already.
