During this time W had said ILY... since then W has not said it.
Are you saying she said she loved you Friday when having intercourse? Do you you mean she hasn't said I love you since then?
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I wanted to speak up about some things that were said that I felt were entirely out of line and also the EA but I did not, I just let it go.
Again. Please clarify. What things were said that you wanted to speak up about?
OIN, if you want us to help you need to be a bit more specific. You make statements that are vague and leave me having to pull things out of you. Letting things go like you say you did may or may not have been the correct way to go about this. Don't believe for one second that a person trying to save their relationship has to let things go when the other spouse is ripping you to shreds again and again. That is why you need to be more specific to us.
Ok. I believe you may be slowly missing out on a great opportunity here and if you don't get a grasp on some of the things that could be helping you even more, then you are never going to be totally happy..
LEARN TO BE A HAPPY MAN..
Your wife is EXCITED and looking forward to your vacation. THAT is an opportunity for you to connect with her deeper emotionally. Instead of focusing on how you can do that, you are still focused on "poor poor me, poor me this and poor me that" That attitude isto not helping you.
You need to get EXCITED about the vacation TOO... Women LOVE something to look forward to. Get yourself lost in planning this vacation along with her. Now, the way to do that is to show her you are excited about something that YOU are wanting to do or a place YOU want to visit while gone on your vacation with her. Example: "Honey, Let's go to the sporting goods store this weekend because I WANT to buy some snorkeling equipment. There is supposed to be a really good snorkeling area there and I want to do that one day while we are there." You may very well then find her sharing something that SHE would also like to do. She may mention, "hey I want to go to the store and look at bikini's after we go to the sporting goods store" You then say.."Ok sounds good. I want to get a new pair of swim trunks myself."... etc. etc Get into your OWN excitement about the vacation and SHARRE that excitement with her. It is give and take. Then when you go to the sporting goods store TOGETHER... get out of the car and grab her hand (don't ask, just take it) and walk in together hand in hand HAPPILY..
You HAVE GOT TO show her that you have other passions and interests other than her. Get passionate about going away on vacation. My wife loves it that I love to plan ahead and get so excited about going on vacation with her. I let her give me ideas of what she wants to do and things she wants to explore or whatever, and I do the same. I say to her,"honey, I read there is a really neat town about an hour away from where we are staying that has a lot of antique shops that are all within walking distance. I think we should take a day and rent a car and go explore that town."
The way you talk about your wife it sounds to me that she would say.."ok" without much emotion behind it. So be it. She doesn't have to love every love or interest you have and vice versa...
I told you before. Take advantage of things SHE likes to do and thins she enjoys. She is excited about this vacation. USE it to your advantage. Stop being so obsessed about her reactions and start obsessing about this fantastic wonderful vacation that YOU can't wait to go on. Let that rub off on her...
