Baby born, separated, WH moving overseas for OW

[gatsby11]

Yes, P, definitely DON'T say anything to the friend. That friend could back you in the future to WH. . . so keep that going.

Worried that I am letting my WH walk away from this marriage and this country with everything he wanted : a peaceful-ending separation from me, a relationship with his child, and our child bearing his name (hyphenated with mine).

Yes. I know. I have worried about that in my own sitch.

The name: her name is great and shouldn't be worried about at all. The hyphen is solid.

Relationship with bub: Again, something YOU want.

Peaceful-ending separation: Forget about him, did you want a chaotic and aggressive ending? I would guess no.

So even though these are things he wanted, they actually benefit you. A lot!

What he is getting that he doesn't want: less trust from his friends and family, you looking like the 'better person', GUILT, and quite possibly some major regret down the line. He will pay, P. You don't even have to do a thing to make that happen, and it still will.