Thanks guys, I really have resolved not to be the rescuer any more. I will not send her any money, I will not do anything for her anymore. I bought her clothes last week. I know what to do I just need constant reenforcement. I leave her alone, I work on my life(school), if she comes back to me that we get her help. That is what I think that I am suppose to do. I did mention that she has no job and never really has. She was a school teacher but quit 2 months after we got married. She has something bad on her record (Probably pill use) and can't find a teaching job. Her mother said they were cutting her off. They will still probably buy her medication but they are not giving her anything anymore. They supported her her whole life. Reading in this she sounds so bad. She was a nice girl whom I enjoyed talking to and being around. She rarely drinks. I really liked her. She felt like a part of me and I know you shouldn't feel that way about someone. I never told her that but she has told me that-my happiness was hers, when I was sad so was she. codependancy. I think that she got married in an effort to rid me of her life. She felt that she would keep on depending on me for her happiness unless she could get me out. Well, she is still thinking about me I think. It was a mistake. I don't know if this is the reason or I am just trying to justify bad behavior. They she really is a mooche that care very little about anyone but herself. I just have a hard time with that. He mom thinks though.
