It's the damsel in distress that's pulling you back in but she's got to clean this mess up all by herself. You can't help with it or if she ever does come back, she'll never respect you properly. I posted some notes over on Mystik's thread from Alanon meetings that I used to attend back when I was in the middle of the mess with my H. It really helped me. Go over and read it but comment here so we don't mix up sitchs.
