Him: "someone who's either a divorcee or widow and tend to be in at least their late 30's they're out to have fun with their newly found freedom but it's not just 20's fun. they're ready to get serious if they find someone suitable." Me: "well you just described STBXW as she is today, no thanks!"
Oh come on! Is this your fantasy (Yes, it is!) or is it factual. I think you have this fantasy that your wife is out there having a great old time looking for men, I'll bet she ain't! This kind of thinking is what hurt does to us. She's probably licking her wounds just like you but YOU DON'T GET TO SEE IT but that doesn't mean it isn't happening! Btw, if it isn't happening than she'll pay big time down the road emotionally. It's far better to acknowledge the pain, deal with it and carry on. Hey, hats off to you for never saying anything bad about wife in front of daughter, that's called integrity. What books did you order?
