I have ended up with women who don't want sex. They go through the motions or the do it for specific reasons or to fulfill an obligation/expectation. But they are not being honest about not wanting sex, not needing sex; and to be honest about that is 'dangerous.'
Who I am is the space and safety to be who they really are without the danger of unpleasant consequences. Society, peers, parents teach them what is dangerous about being that way. Even my wife has identified this state of being. It has nothing to do with me turning them off...it has everything to do with them being "off" and have always been "off" and they finally perceive it as "safe" to be that.
The Captain
Last sex: 04/06/1997 Last attempt: 11/11/1997 W Issues "No Means No" Declaration: 11/11/1997 W chooses to terminate sex 05/1998 I gained 60, then lost 85 pounds. Start running again (marathons)
