The plan thing is only supposition on my part. Every other thing she does just makes no sense and comes at a cost to everyone but her.
The affair, the selfishness, the spending funds we do not have, I just think it all started back when I thought she was just dealing with her 40 years on the planet.
I would think a WAW would try to get advice from friends at least or something. Only advice my wife is getting is from the OM.
