Thanks Puppy, and Bluestar. I think I am going to file for the protective quality. There is no legal advantage (or cost advantage) to being the first to file or not in my state. It just gives me the protection of freezing accounts, protecting myself against any debt H incurs right now (if we do divorce) and having a credible threat of force in terms of custody negotiations that are getting heated.
My lawyer has assured me that it's not final till its final.
Puppy - what did you tell your wife when you filed?
