She will be away most of August. On business and 1 week of her and her family vacation.
I have about 83 more days until I have to sign the papers, or it reverts to a no-fault 2 year waiting period.
Time seems to be just flying by, with no change in her whatsoever. She gets more and more determined each day.
I KNOW this has to be about ME. But it seems like so many success stories on here were when the WAS waffled a little in getting the D proceedings going. They said they wanted a D, or maybe even moved out, but it seems like my wife is taking concrete steps EVERY day.
Making lists, calling this person, doing this, doing that. She is ACTIVELY pursuing her goal like it's been her dream all her life.
That's why I find so little hope. Because I don't THINK I've head a success story where the WAS was literally doing something EVERY day for the D, and then eventually turned around.
Do you have friends in the attourney realm?
On these 83 days... If your abs aren't showing, I'd get on a serious cutting diet, and work hard in the gym to be in the best shape of your life. Along with this, I'd do a bachelor diet of doing and seeing all the things a bachelor would. Actively pursue other females, talk with them, socialize, invite them to dinner. The goal is putting the "attractiveness kharma" back into you.
If you spend all the time worrying about what she is doing, spying on her, etc it will make you look bad, and you will feel bad too!
Also, during this time period, moderate your drinking to one day or cut it out.
Sorry to hear about the dog. I know the feeling and how hard it is... I would think you would have a say though!
It's natural to go through different emotions as I just posted on someone else's thread. You can't be expected to be made of steel 100% of the time! The important thing is to work through those times and pick yourself back up - and have support in doing so. My thoughts are with you.
Please start a new thread. This thread is getting a bit too long, so I'm locking it. Shorter threads improve the speed and functionality of this online community.
