So some of her transgressions against you where to cause pain in you?
In my sitch, wife has done 1000's of situations, designed to either get a rise out of me, or to cause me pain or bring me down on purpose.
Also I'm out of the vagina. I'm now of the firm believe, while its not your "right" to be in the vagina, you SHOULD be in there if that is your wife, or long term gf.
If you where in there and now your not, its likely someone else is.
Perhaps without her drama and those pain killers she may be a different person. It could be a couple of friends who enable her to be this way, perhaps a gossiper a $hit starter, and people who entertain themself with her life.
If she comes how she has to stop playing, so she may as well do all of it she wants to now.
I also see how you can't feel good knowing that she was playing the other husband like this. Its like her character has decayed from when she was with you.
She can pull out of it, she's a human being and if she has love for you and will take you seriously, and leave the drama and crap behind her... Over time she can be a good wife.
Whether you want to take the risk is up to you. I guess you have nothing to lose if you don't marry her and let her transform into that good wife you know she can be while your not married. And then, it may not be worth it to marry her again if she ends up acting right.
