So I(OMW) get home last night and decide to have a little chat session with OM after drinking a bottle of wine with my girlfriend. I started asking him about talking to W – at first he denied it and then said yes they did talk – last week after you told her about him meeting OW2 in Vegas and lying about not going to work W immediately sent him a text letting him know she would calling and wanted him to answer and he did. She told him what you told her about this new woman and he completely denied it AND she believed him – told him I guess OMW and Dan are playing games with me to be mean and hurtful and then she told him she knew he’d never do anything like that…….ha was she ever wrong!
Well her seeing the e-mail between you and I really set her off cause she sent OM a text after reading the email telling him as an FYI that Dan and OMW are communicating multiple times throughout the day and sharing personal information about OM and that she now knows that he lied to her about this woman from Vegas and she basically told him she wished him unhappiness and misery because that is what he deserves!
He tried telling me that the only reason he talked to her is because you and I are communicating and creating this situation – told him don’t even use that as an excuse. He took her call because he knew that I told you about him meeting up and OW2 and that you’d tell W so he wanted to convince her it was a lie – said he didn’t want her feelings hurt cause he knows she going through a lot already. I said how’d that work out for you cause now she knows you’re a f-ing liar – he said yep she does, she knows I’m an ahole but that if he wanted to he could smooth things over with her pretty quick and she’d be fine with it – his way of letting me know how much she really likes him. I said to him, so she’s really upset with you and he said hell yes she’s f-ing pissed. I said, if nothing went on between the two of you – why would him meeting another woman upset her and he said because of the timing and how it looks – like he dumped her ass and met someone else and here she went and filed for a divorce and is getting out and he went off and found someone else instead of continuing on with her. Anyway, he was all frazzled and upset – wasn’t going to go to work – told him to get the hell out. He brought up getting divorced again and told me if I can’t drop this, things aren’t going to ever get any better – I grabbed his face and told him, until he gets her the f out of his life and makes it clear to her that he doesn’t want anything to do with her, this will never get any better – he said, believe me, she won’t contact him ever again cause she’s f-ing pissed! I told him that I am going to check his phone records over cause I know when Dan told her about OW2 and I know this week when she sent that text and I’ll see if he had calls while at work and will assume it’s her calling him – he said last week when they talked it was right before work which I caught him lying cause he originally said she called him from work – just the constant lies that he can’t keep straight – he said she sent him the text this week right before 8:30.
He hates it that you and I communicate because between the two of us we find out that things are STILL going on between them. Oh well I told him – it’s the only way that I am finding out that he continues to lie to me – said if he didn’t like it, then he should stop – he said he has and that they didn’t talk for a couple of weeks and she contacted him first but who knows if that is really true….but at least she knows that he did lie to her about meeting someone in Vegas…..poor W.
This makes me want to throw it in her face and dance around her laughing and mocking her, but since that is what I want to do, I know it is the wrong answer.
Just be quiet and let her stew, right? Please say I should dance!!! She is such a victim!!!
Thanks for all the earlier replies. I will read them when I have some privacy.
