Shelby, get whatever you can out of that account. Since he emptied it, you have every right to what's left. Protect your money. Get his name off any credit cards. Retain a L asap. A L can serve him with desist papers so that he can't keep taking money away from you and the kids or running up debt. You can also get some temporary support in place.
Let his mom do whatever she wants. Best to stay out of it. Besides, maybe it will shake him up a bit.
You're doing great but you can't worry about what will push him away right now. You have to just do whatever it takes to protect yourself and your daughters.
Thanks bluestar I checked today and he left $350 in the account. he says he will pay the bills and put more money in for me as needed.
I think he has lost his mind.
He called earlier today and said he wants to come over tomorrow night to talk about the finances and for me to give him some of the bills I took care of myself, like my medical bills.
I think I will let him know tomorrow,that the Girls & I have plans so we can notsee him Friday night, but tell him I am going out Saturday night and if he wants to come over for the Girls we can go over things before I leave.
does that sound good?
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
Well I just got back from opeing up my own checking account, Cried so much to the bank Guy, He was so nice, but he must have thought I was crazy.
I called a lawyer yesterday, She has a $250 consultation fee. I don't have my first appt. till July 27th. IS that too long to wait ? Should I keep looking around for another lawyer ?
I know my H wanted me to go to lawyer that had a free consultaion. I feel so lost in doing all of this.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
Definitely keep looking. There are many that provide free initial consultations. I would probably steer clear of any that your H recommends. Hopefully, someone will be able to get you in sooner than that. Some even give phone consults.
I am going out tonight with some Girls friends something that has been planned for 3 months, H Called a little while ago, He actually called twice and left messages before I called him back.
He wanted to come over to give me some paper work and to mow the lawn and spend time with the Girls. He wanted to come over around 1:00, I then told him I was going out tonight and leaving around 4:30 and if he wanted to come over then to spend time with the Girls that would be better.
So now, I find out he called my oldest daughter on her cell and told her he was coming over tonight and then he was taking them to His mothers. What??? He never mentioned that to me. I quess he can go with them wherever he wants.
My next question is I have not seen him since he told the Girls and left the House on Wednesday night. I really have some things I would like to say to him, Should I just keep my mouth shut ?
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
I would hold off for now. You can say those things eventually but right now, it can't help you and it can hurt you. Get the legal help nailed down first. Take anything he gives you but don't look at it with him. Tell him you'll review it and walk away. Keep contact short and brief right now.
By the way, let him know that you won't stand in the way of him seeing the girls but you need to know if he plans to take them somewhere BEFORE he tells them about it.
