Just becuase your SPOUSE IS comfortable with what you're doin don't mean its a good idea... A LOT of men AND women out there are VERY NAIEVE about the DANGERS of flirting and online sex chat.. .some thing its perfectly fine as long as it doens't get physical... they have NO IDEA that their spouses are playing with fire...
I am not comfortable using a trusting spouse's judgement as the guideline for safety in flirting or online chat... Not by a long shot...