My game has changed from WAW to EA/PA HELP!!

[Quicksilver264]

The Allan/Puppy method should precede the Gucci one in my opinion.

No WAS is really going to come back if they are in an EA/PA, ESPECIALLY if they have started the divorce process.

The other person is a lifeline, and a handhold for them through it. They "think" they will be able to navigate divorce because they are getting attention, sex, and everything they lacked in the marriage. It colors their vision of the process, and provides some sort of coping mechanism.

Blow that out of the water BIG TIME. Then monitor results and do your DBing with detachment. Let the WAS feel the pain of losing their other partner and go through withdrawal.

Should that NOT work ONE SINGLE BIT with stopping the D, then you have to move on to Gucci.

Once you totally let go, your WAS has no other person, and NO YOU. Family and friends CAN'T be there 24/7, and the idea is during the times your WAS is alone, that the natural attachment bond they have with you will tend to start to attract them back to you.

Even if it is anger or "what the Hell could they be doing", they are still THINKING of you. Think about something long enough, and they start to want what they apparently can't have.

How much do people crave some food at midnight, when they damn well know the place is closed? "Oh if I could just have some of that XXXXXX".

Blow the affair out of the water, and then YOU decide how long is long enough to go Gucci. Because if you exposed and the WAS is still committed to D, then you HAVE to PROTECT yourself.

It's sort of like the little guy FINALLY standing up for himself when being picked on. EVERYONE gives him a big thumbs up and sees him differently. When you PROTECT yourself and disappear, the WAS WILL notice.