I'm not sure if I belong on this forum or not but here goes. I started out on Newcomers almost 2 years ago when my W announced that she wanted a D. I found out there was an OM involved. I did whatever I could to try and save the marriage to no avail at the time. Then with the tension rising with us both still living separately in the same house, my STBXW (or so I thought) moved into her own apartment and we set up a 50/50 custody schedule with our girls. I moved over to the "We're Separated - Now What" forum. During these past 10 months we have managed to co-parent extremely well, putting the kids interest in a stress free and guilt free environment first. I pretty much detached, but we (stbxw and I) continued to see each other through interactions with the kids (i.e. school events, bringing kids back and forth between our two residences.
Jump to now. I just bought a house and moved into it with our girls. STBXW helped significantly in the moving process, helping to clean the old house, move stuff over to the new house. A week before I moved, I spent some time with my older kids in the mid-west. When I returned my STBXW wanted to come over and see me. We had a nice dinner together and she ended up staying the night - we ML for the first time in 2 years and it was surprisingly nice for both of us. It has rekindled thoughts of a possible reconcilliation in me. She has asked that when her lease is up in September if she can move back into the house with me and the girls in order to save money and spend more time with them. There is a downstairs guest room that she could occupy. I have agreed, although I am worried that we could go back to not wanting to be in the same room together. Since last Friday, we have continued to be more affectionate towards each other (i.e. occasional hug and short kiss when she comes/goes).
I guess I still would like to reconcile but I want it to be for the right reasons and not just because of the kids. I welcome any advice in how to move forward with fixing this mess.
