Yes, they are quite similiar. I think you have more contact than I do with your X because of the kid handoffs. The nanny handles almost all of ours. I have had the pleasure of no contact with the STBX since the 5th. That is a pretty good stretch of time and it helps.
She figured out that I'm not interested in idle chit chat with her. I simply do not respond to non-critical child rearing communication. Pure business. I know what you mean about trying to stay civil and it is easier said than done. A friend of mine tells me to killer her with kindness. I try not to come across as bitter (which I am to a degree) and try to appear happy and content. I don't think I pull the later part off very well. Also, I'm not sure how she views my business only stance and really I don't care.
The house is now on the market and as bummed as I am about selling, I'm eager to close that chapter of this nightmare quickly.
I'm looking forward to this weekend as I have my twins. Taking them to the beach and any other venue that provides for heat relief.
Thanks for checking in and have a great weekend.
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)