....A spouse or long term gf would do niceties for you such as cooking, being sweet for you, helping out, thinking about you and showing how they do it. A woman wants her man to feel like a man, and they would leave no doubt in their mind by their actions that you are their man.
Now I stand by my old mantra. If your not screwing your own wife, someone else likely is. Sorry.
Things in life truly are usually simple. If you have a relationship partner who is with you.
You will:
1. Be treated well, or at least as well as they know how to. 2. You will have cooperation 3. You will FEEL loved 4. You will have a descent sex life, or they will be working on improving themself 5. They will not "bad talk" you very often. 6. They will leave no doubt in their mind that they are with you. 7. Also, you WILL be able to hurt their feelings
With the right lady and man for that example.
....It pains me to read some of the stories here, and I know I've done my contribution. Some of these cheatings and affairs, do go back to high school and college ways of dealing with people. The way its done is an immaturity behind it.
...I also read that a woman in an affair due to psychological components starts a demasculization process on a male. It really does take something from you when you are cheated. It could be that she doesn't want to be with you, and not doing the physical act yet... Its the same thing, you are missing alot of yourself and in life.
Interesting. While I don't agree with some of your points, I saw some interesting posts elsewhere about women cheating on their men.
There was a study done (in the UK if I remember correctly) with DNA to determine how many children were biologically the product of the wife and her husband and there was a surprising high number (between 10% and 20% if I remember correctly) what were the product of a woman's affairs. There was a post about a woman who wrote about (I wouldn't buy the e-book) affairs and the stages of anger that women have.
I found myself saying that my wife had exhibited many of those same stages of anger and emotional withdrawal, but then again, at the time, my wife could not get naked in front of me and did not like being naked even briefly to or from the shower, so I felt she couldn't get naked with someone else.
While I am not sure I would agree with you that "...If your not screwing your own wife, someone else likely is..." I would say that it does happen, probably more than most people realize and that most men will delude themselves and deny it is happening when it is obvious to others.
In reading about othes, I have been amazed at the number of couples that survive an affair and use that as a way of rebuilding a marriage. Until I read about it, I thought that if my wife every had an affair, I would "kick her to the curb" and tell her to get out of the house. Now I think it is a much more complicated situation and I can understand others who stay married even when trust has been betrayed.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
