Liv,

Hi and thanks for thinking of me

Things are good, its hard work though.
Thing is our Goal is to get our S back, BUT thats the beginning, thats when the real Dbing starts and its hard work.

Things are still good with H and I, dont get me wrong, but the novalty of the new ness has worn off and H wants to creep back to old ways, and im having to DB my butt off to keep it all on track.

But its working!!! we will get there, I know we will.

I do still visit the board, But its hard, I cant do it at home whilst H is there, he caught me the other night and I had to click off and He questioned me im sure he thought I was up to something like porn!! .

We are house hunting Our lives are changing

Im not reacting to him and it feels good

something happened the other night that was quite a dbing success.
H was very late home from work, I had cooked dinner and it was ruined

Pre Dbing days.... I would of gradually over the hours wating for him worked my self up into such an angry state that when he finally come home, I would of either ignored him or said something like" Why cant you just ring me"
Cause at the end of the day all I want is a phone call to say Im gonna be late.

Well I thought about all this and I thought, Sue, Is it your dinner that is getting ruined?? No. Its his dinner , his problem, you have done your bit, you cooked it, now leave it. So why does he need to call you?? he doesn't, its his dinner, his problem.

Well, he walked in the door. He was ready for me, I could tell. He was already grumpy before I opened me mouth!!! he was ready and waiting for it!!

So, I said in my cutest voice ever, Hi
This through him, but he didn't let the wall down just yet, and he said " alright" in a voice that kiinda said, I now its coming.

I was watching something on TV, and I said " this is funny its making me laugh".

He looked at TV and said ( still in defensive voice" What is it". I started to explain the program and I was laughing as I did.
This was hilaruosly funny to watch
He said " any dinner?" I said yeah in kitchen ( not siacastically).
He went to get it, ate it, then asked if I wanted to join him on sofa for a cuddle

So it works!!!
But im still training my puppy

Sue