Haha . . . I have fantasized about lying and saying H was still active with me during times they were dating. But not sure dishonesty is the way to combat dishonesty . . .
Dear ___________: I have a feeling that my husband is not being honest with you. Has he shared that his entire family knows that you’ve been involved since at least February and that everyone also knows you are now living together? Has he shared how disgusted everyone is with this situation? I just want to make sure you know that the wool is over no one’s eyes and no one is going to accept your relationship as legitimate at a later point. In fact, I’ve been assured that you won’t be welcomed into the homes of any of his family members.
Doesn’t it make you wonder why _____ will not be open about what he’s doing with you? Why hasn’t he filed for divorce with me? Don’t you wonder what the sleeping arrangements have been on the nights he’s stayed at our house recently?
You are obviously aware that he’s been dishonest with me – what makes you think he's honest with you?
I think ONE letter would'tn constitude harassment no...
Ask SeeingRed about this one, she was charged with harassment by OW some time ago.. she's beating it easily...
Hey Melody,
Allen asked me to weigh in on harrassment. Don't know if I can help, but I'll try to ease your mind.
OW had me ARRESTED for sending 2 'harassing' emails to her at work, 'implying' she was having an affair with my husband.
When I engaged a lawyer and showed him the text message history (1,000/mth back and forth) and the Victoria's Secret invoices WS sent using his work address and her home address, my lawyer LAUGHED for 10 minutes and said that OW was either an idiot or had "the balls of a bull." I told her she was both and was also like a bull in a china shop!
Anyway, check with your lawyer, but I don't think 1 email constitutes a harrassment pattern. Here's what I'm reading online at LetsWrap.com: "Harassment is extremely frustrating to deal with, and can be difficult to prove in court."
Hope that helps.
Sounds like your WH is just ticked that you're spreading his secret. But you know, if he didn't cheat, NONE of this would have happened...
Mel, my H lied through his teeth to OW about his sitch with me. Told her he was living here but not sleeping with me, yeah right. Told her he was just buying time to leave me when the time was right. When I finally got fed up, I called her and told her everything. It was much easier for her when she could just pretend I was some myth 30 miles away. Once she heard my voice, I could hear her blood drain from her face.
You just stirred things up for them. You'll get some pushback from him but she can't pretend that you don't exsist anymore. That's power.
Too late to chime in y'all - pretty much sent her entire first paragraph in 3 texts . . . awaiting fire
I actually thought the first paragraph was the weakest of the three. I dunno; just struck me as some mix of defensive/petty/vindictive.
The 2nd paragraph is ALWAYS a powerful, effective play between women. The cheating husband almost ALWAYS lies to his mistress about still having sexual relations with his wife, and the mistress almost ALWAYS goes ballistic over it (often dumping his sorry ass) when she finds out. It's among the best "single-bullet" affair-busters that I know of.
And the third, single-sentence paragraph is just a GREAT "truth dart."
I agree with Puppy. If you don't send the rest of the message, she really gets off the hook and thinks you're just reacting as your H probably told her you would. The second and third paragraphs make her doubt what she thinks she knows. It causes trouble for them.
Thanks for feedback! I sent her condensed version of first paragraph (on the theory that the whole reason to still hide truth is that my H has convinced her no one knows and they can just start publically dating once D is filed . . . things H has told my daughter make me think this is how it's working . . . no hunny, OW is not my GF, but I will have a GF someday and it might be OW . . .) Yeah, vindictive . . . maybe . . . wish I could say there was no anger I'm holding.
I did include the last idea of "and has my H disclosed where he's been sleeping when he stays over - if he's lying this much, what makes u think hes honest with u".
Got a custody email right after from him which was clearly coached by a L or someone other than my H. Ran it by my lawyer, L thinks I should file. Reminded me it's not alwasy the end but that having a case filed helps me approach child custody and financial moves from a protected state.
