New here, not sure where to start

[ericmsant2]

ITay

I told you I would keep an eye on YOU.

there are so many..just so darn many sad stories here.

It’s funny I was where you were months ago. So many sad storied I said…so many..Then….I awoke…

Then…I grew….then I realized that I do not see sad stories – what I see is people growing, people changing. I see hope. Hope in the human spirit. Hope for all of us. That hope…that strength…that light…IT IS IN US. So yeah…God does answer prayer – he does – matter of fact he already answered the prayer – just look inside you’ll find it.

I told him I thought it was sad that he had to be around people like that all the time..and that I thought it would be so much better if he could be around people who actually had morals and were good people.

“I”, “I”, “I”…..Tay you have every right to YOUR opinion – YOUR views or ideas and guess what SO DOES YOUR HUSBAND. So when you tell him that YOU think this or YOU think that – you do not give HIM the chance to learn this stuff on his own. In short, you stunt his growth and for this to work…he really needs to grow.

if they are in MLC, they have to be given space to work this mess
out. Makes no sense to you and me. They MUST travel this journey.

Read this over and over Tay….I cannot stress enough how you must let him figure this out. The more you push, the more you say things that invalidate how he feels, the more you seem scared the farther away he will go. Once you understand this…we’ll then things all of sudden start to look different. FTR – it takes time to wrap your mind around this…so although we are all come at you right now I do realize that you will get there…You will get there in YOUR time..not mine..not your H.

So the MLC'r does not find happiness in whatever direction they
go. Until.... they wake up.. if they do... and realize where it
was all along.

Tay – no one here can say with 100% certainty that your H will wake up what we can say that if you really work on you…that YOU can be the light he looks for to find his way home. If you say you love him then you must be that light…you must show him..what it is to LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.

You must show him that you love him enough to let him go…love him enough to remain in the distance with a light that he needs.

Be the light Tay…..be the light….

I am driving to NJ but I will check up on you later on...

God Bless,

Eric