Something happened recently, that I really feel I have to share with you all in picing.
It made me realise how easily we can all slip in to our old ways by reacting to what our S do.
Ok, one of the problems in our R was That I got ill with a very bad case of RESENMENT flue. I got a letter the other day, because I had not sent my car tax form in on time and in this country ( England) you have to declare that you did not have the veihcle on the road. So the DVLA send you a SORN form to fill out.
I knew what the letter was so I didn't bother to open it, I had one before, never filled it out and never heard again, so I wasn't to bothered. I left it on the side unopened.
H said to me, " are you going to fill tht form out" I thought about it, then thought, Ok, How does he know what it is. So off I went to see where the letter was. H had opened it!!!
I came back to H and I said " You opened my letter" H said well you hadn't opened it.
I said " I knew what it was, it was my letter, was adressed to me, I would never open your mail!!"
H said well you need to send it off, or you will get fined.
I was furious. So, I was adament that I would now not do it!! How dare he, I thought!!
I then went into one, telling him how he needed to realise that, I was me and he was he, and he should not be opening my mail and it was my letter, my fine, my problem!!
He went off to work, leaving me feeling very angry.
whilst at work, I started to think about all this, I was questioning am I wrong? every time I asked that question I got the same answer from myself I AM RIGHT!!!
Then I statted to think about DBing, I kept remembering a line in the book, I cant remembr what it says word for word but basically its about how we always feel we are right. Which got me thinking H was probably doing the same thing, thinking HE IS RIGHT!!
Then I rememberd to start with a beginners mind. Whos says im right??
So, I decide to do something different from what I would of normally done wich would of been to 1) Definatly not send that form!! 2) Ignore him untill he apolagises to me.
Now I also decide d that I wasn't totally wrong and he wasn't right, so thre was no need for me to apolagies.
I asked myself why he botherd to interfere with my life and I realised it was because he cared. He didn't want me to get a fine. This was hard because I wanted to beleive I was right and he was wrong.
Anyway I mailed him and I simply said Hi, thankyou for reminding me about the form, I have filled it out and sent it off, see you tonight sue xx
I never got a reply, and he never aid nothing later that night, but he cuddled up to me on the sofa, and we had a lovley evening together and now its all forgotten about
Things like that are not worth breaking up a R about, you might think thats taking it too far, but its all thoose small things put together that do it.
Just thought I would share that, because I felt pleased with myself.
