Why sai "when you guys decide to be honest".. it just makes HER FEEL like it is GOING to HAPPEN when right now she's likley not sure still.
If you send her anything you want to send her something STRATEGICALLY to add additional pressure to knock the affair off balance.
You want HER thinking TWICE about trusting your Husband... He's cheating with her.. NEITHER ONE of them is likely very trusting right now .. They are both anxious and paranoid.
Exploit that to start a FIGHT over there.
I would post a note in their apartment building bulletin board with their names and room numbers and explaining in detail what the two are doing...
If the whole damn apartment knows they will have to do a walk of shame every time they go there.
Don't send a letter to make YOU feel good. YOu send a letter to pressure the affair to its END.. Or don't send anything.
