I read in one of Jack-Three-Beans replies that he was SO disgusted with his WAW that not only did he totally disconnect, he was looking forward to a life without her. Divorce became Plan A and he treated her as such.
That was her wakeup call. When she broke off her affair and came back and wanted to reconcile, he put her through hell because he was set on the divorce path. He wanted her to fail so he could call it quits.
But darned if she didn't repent and become the model wife after that. He ran out of excuses to NOT reconcile and break up his family (they have 2 boys).
