H, I am convinced is now reaching the third stage of ACCeptance in MLC. He is a changed man.
He is not the man that went in the tunnel. When H and I first met and were "In love" of course we were different together. Things changed as they always do, I thought this meant H didn't love me any more.
I became a constant fixer, always checking the daily temprature. Do you love me??, you dont love me, you never say it anymore, and so on.
H never responded to any of this, of course I got worse!!
However, things have changed.
Its not like the early days, the "in love" days, Its better!!
H is on my case BIG TIME
He tells me he loves me all the time, he does more temprature checking than me
Ok, New years eve, I really thought I had done some damage. I got talking to a bloke at a party who was having major probs in his marraige. This Guy is a freind of H's, first time I had met him. I started to talk to him about saving his M, three other guys joined in, turned out they were all having some problem or other. I asked this guy if he wanted to save his M. he said yes. He said she dont.( they still live together but she wont talk to him, go on holiday with him, nothig.) So of course I started to tell him things like, do something different from what you have been doing. H herad all what I was saying, i thought jeez.
next day H asked me about it all. Then i couldn't beleive he said, you know what, aside of all our problems we have a better R than all those lot!!! I thought hoorah H you have noticed lol.
I have one problem. I cannot stop thoughts creeping in my mind, I have to use the thought stopping technique a lot. I occasionly ask myself, why did he do it?? then I have to remind myself. Its not always easy, but its worth it.
My R is different it will never be the same, H is different, I am different. He is so much more settled, like he has made a desision
Its hard staying focused, and occaisonly I get a touch of DB amnesia.
H stays on track, do you know wht, sometimes I think im sure he has been on this site and is DBing lol. That is amazing when you think about it.
