Saying inappropriate flirting is not safe is a tautology. Aren't we just stating the obvious there?

Flirting leads to sexchat. Sexchat leads to internet affair. Internet affair leads to physical affair.

I don't care if its in our DNA. So is violence and extra-marital sex. That' doesn't justify its use.

Being married is like driving, or dieting, or managing a limited budget... You HAVE to be able to say NO to yourself and cut BACK... follow the rules. No speeding, no binging, and no shopping sprees.

Period.

There are tons of articles on the www about this pup... MOST people cannot manage flirting safely.. at work or elsewhere...

IF you told me they were educated and were able to manage flirting I would likey say ya its safe to do some. But I hvaen't met many people who were educated in the risks and dangers of playing fast and loose with the marriage. My opinion its best to err on the side of caution and just say "NO" to drugs.

More to the point.. It opens up a lot of other risks... HOW on earth is this supposed safe flirter supposed to ensure that they don't cross a line? Hunh?

Sorry, it just opens up the floodgates and pandoras box all at the same time...

The safest flirting is flirting done with your damn SPOUSE.

I haven't seen anyone I KNOW who is educated enough to manage flirting safely.

Will all flirting lead to sexual affairs?

No. It's a dice roll. But there's NO WAY for the LBS to KNOW what flirting thier spouse is doing is SAFE and what flirting ISN'T.... until its WAY TOO DAMN LATE.

Just opens up too many risks...

Better question.. who cares if its in our DNA.. Is it NECESSARY to DO this while you are MARRIED? What JUSTIFIABLE REASON can one HAVE to FLIRT while they are married and play fast and loose with a delicate covenant with one person for the rest of your life? What in God's name would justify putting that to TEST in the first place?

I can't imagine one. And if someone WAS arguing a case for flirting I would be VERY suspicous of their internet activity.

Yes, there are cases where flirting may do no harm and ends as quicly as it starts, but the RISKS being taken there, and the INABILITY to KNOW if its a safe flirt or not isn't worth the potential NIGHTMARE the home goes through.

I can't imagine any reason why flirting outside the marriage would be worth RISKING the marriage to pursue it...