Never left, just sitting back, watching this unfold and dealing with my own quandries.
That said..............
As rob just said, DEALBREAKER, period. Do you feel comfortable with the fact YOUR WIFE comes home after being with OM and washes HIS FILTH off her? I sure as hell didn't. That is the UPMOST display of disrespect EVER. Pack her schitt and tell her to hit the road. Time to use those balls.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11