I'm back and looking for insight

[kat727]

With my 20/20 hindsight, I would say I am glad to be off. It is exhausting always trying to figure out what to do, try or say next to get the darn ship turned around. So much time is wrapped up in their wants and needs, that you quite literally lose yourself.

That being said, when he actually filed, I was devasted. I mean he had a long term affair before and stayed, how could he now choose to leave for another woman with 4 kids involved? I was depressed even with going to a C. I found this site and I felt so much better. In a couple of weeks, it will be 2 years since the divorce was final. My C was right, I had been doing so much of the heavy lifting in my marriage, it really wasn't that big of change.

So mentally, I am better off. The five of us still have our moments
on occasion but I believe we all would be much happier with someone that actively wanted to be here. We are a work in progress.

I hope that helped you. Feel free to ask whatever and I will always try to answer to the best of my ability. So where do you want to go from here...really?

Hugs, kat