Originally Posted By: PEI
Which, for me, does not translate into unconditional marriage.


Doesn't have to.

All I am saying is that there is a time...

And that is not for me to say.

Just consider what I have said.

And there is a time for you to express

Originally Posted By: PEI
Unconditional love. Friendship. Self respect.


And it takes time for you to express this through your actions.

Do you think he wants friendship?

Does he want a D?

I am not convinced you are not giving him what you think he wants, or what makes you feel better to say you are giving him.

Self respect is for you and IMO opinion is not enhanced by your leaving. They are not connected.

IMO there is a period of time which we learn, receive grace, and give it.

A critical time during this process when you are able to express what you stand for and give grace to your spouse...

Express love, unconditional love if you will, to your spouse by your actions, or in this case not acting on leaving.

What does you leaving H communicate to him?

I am not advocating setting your life aside for H.

In the end it is about you and your own timing.

So

If you have read through what I have said and it sits well and comfortable with you.

Then

Move forward.

Know this, my comments here are based only on my own experience and beliefs as they relate to me.

My expressing them to you is so you may consider it as something you may not have thought about.

In the end your choices are yours and I respect them.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am