Hey! With respect par4me, I don't think Gatsby needs to be too wary. She has her head on her shoulders and has been a natural DBer. No need for strategies as she has been practicing really healthy detachment from very early on in her sitch.
So G, what I want to say is this IS a good step. I think no matter what happens to you two, you both could really benefit from discussing what happened to your marriage. I guess it means finding a really good counselor though - as they say, a bad one can do more damage. Seems to me you have time to find one?

All of those points you note are possible.

But don't waste time second guessing.

What can go horribly wrong? He's already left once and so he can't leave you again, right?

And he's saying he enjoys seeing you.

You are doing really well. Keep doing what you are doing. I think it is working.


Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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