PEI- IMO...if a man walks away WITHOUT another woman in the wings...he probably gave the M an honest look...he put his ALL into it.
When they walk away as a result of another woman...I don't think they had time to reflect on everything....perhaps anything. They go into self preservation mode...
My wife must have been ______ My M must have lacked _______ I am not happy because my wife didn't give me ______
Why else would I have done this??? It couldn't have been something lacking in me...it must have been the M or my wife.
When you feel so terrible about the person you have become..the actions you have taken....it is so much easier to explain it away. It is too painful to take responsibility for it.
I am not saying that you didn't have issues in your M...and these issues weren't the responsibility of both of you...
I'm just putting this out there. IMO- it is a cop out.
Hey, couldn't agree more ... and he did walk before OW entered the picture. That's part of what I've come to understand. He was done in December, dropped the bomb in January and fell for OW in late March ... do I think he needs to do some major self work, yep ... but it does't change the timeline or his maturity level.
thanks Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
