Still trying to find my way

[Mystik]

bluestar ~ That would require acknowledging she exists which I have yet to do. But I wish I had the cojones enough to tell her off.

RNM ~ Total re-write of our marriage. I agree that he is trying to twist things in his mind so he feels less guilt over what he's doing to me. There is no way on earth I can be friends with him. Like you said, I didn't marry him to end up as d'd friends with him. We can be parents, but nothing more. The hurt is too great. He is definitely immature, and his actions are selfish. It's all about him, which isn't that typical of the walk away husband?

P4M ~ It is hard when the person you thought you knew better than yourself becomes a stranger to you. It is the memories of the good times that keep me holding on because I believe if we were that way before we can be that way again. I'll stop by your thread after work, but for now I'd say stop puruing. Stop offering to help her out with things, stop sleeping with her, and a wise DBer has said to not put much stock into what the walk-away spouse says or does. (Greatly paraphrased but you get the point.)