How to explain to Spouse....

[Jstar]

so she is not so nice on the phone but drops her guard when in person? sounds like h and I. i recognize it say to myself i'll be nice on the phone and ic an't. i can be not so nice on phone and in person then he says something so totally stupid and makes me laugh.

i think i love the thought of him and of what could be. on some occasions when we've been together i think he can't handle the kids or is stressed or just plain somewhere else. he feels like a wet blanket i'm carrying around. like he sees no joy in what the kids do,say, or anything. he doesn't seem to be happy-ever