Tells S he's just going to need to get over things and not let them interfere with his life.
"And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon, little boy blue and the man in the moon..."
At some point your S may (or not) address his feelings with his Dad. That's really up to him.I would (as the occassion arises) talk with him about what he thinks/feels about all of it. He may or may not share. I have one D that wouldn't say "shite" if she had a mouth full, so I have used what I refer to as "backdoor" methods to talk with her about alot of this stuff.
Sorry you're having a tough night. I hope you get some rest.