I don't know. Sounds like he should be a little mad at you from that. You can not make someone involved in their childs life. I could not for a while be in childs life because of the pain of my ex. I would be no good to the child and I would have manipulated my ex with the child to gain her attention. Weak, I know. So, I can give him that for awhile if he is hurting. Hitting you or saying he is going to hit you is completely not right. You sound like you are pushing for the divorce. If you do not want it than don't pursue it you may just get it. He should be paying child support. But, I was talking about just going dark where he doesn't know that you are there for him. He has no fear that you are not going to be there if he shows up. There is nothing like not knowing what the person you love is doing when they are not in your life. If he thinks you are waiting on him to decide the fate of your relationship then he will be in no hurry. This is my problem. My wife knows that I am waiting, I think, she is no hurry. She knows I am her safty net.
