Young at Heart, you're right. When I said 3 weeks, I was actually only talking about the time before I told my wife about the 180, which I had not planned to do. In my case, that worked OK. But it didn't finish the 180 and fix the problem; I probably spent about six weeks overall doing the no-sex thing. We were on a "schedule" of about once-monthly sex by then (always the day after her period ended,though she only recently admitted that--I still don't know why that was the shameful part for her.) The hardest thing was telling her "no" when that monthly night rolled around. It sounds simple now, but in that time of desperation . . . . and Cozyp828, that's why people are talking about how "lucky" you are to be facing being scheduled for twice-weekly sex. And there's some truth to that--there's nothing wrong with scheduling sex if that's how you get things going again. If you're getting connected during sex, she may find that her desire rises when she does it more. That means she's basically proposing the "just do it" approach herself. That's good!
