The objective of your efforts in this case was infidelis interruptus.
Accomplished.
You don't have to convince anyone of anything, CD. You KNOW. She KNOW. OM KNOWS. They can lie and spin all they want. Knowledge is power.
Greek
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Wow...you have had quite the day, CD! You are on a roll!
Not much you can do about ostriches. As my FT said today, Denial can be a very strong thing!
Just to add: she and I discussed all the different aspects of GAL and 180's. Didn't really make any new discoveries, it just helps you stay on track to have it confirmed that what we are doing is the right thing for ourselves and our families here on this forum. It helps keep me from getting discouraged when I know the path I am taking is the right one. When you don't have the support or the end in mind, often you veer from that path because your emotions take you down so many different tunnels - with no cheese, I might add. I think this is what Pup meant earlier about Cruise Control - just stay the course! You're on the right path.
I think QS also makes a good point: right now it's an emotional high to finally be able to do something about all this! There may be coming a time when there's a letdown or frustrations occur. That's just natural. HOWEVER: no reason not to celebrate while you should! No one wants to burst that bubble. :-)
Just know that if there is a letdown later that your support systems in place and the knowledge that you are on the right path WILL help you stay the course!
As for the SBTXW, she's young - she probably does not have the emotional maturity to handle this properly. I know I didn't at that age when it happened to me with 1st H.
I was going to refer her to my thread. But I'm afraid she'd leak it and OM and W would be on here in seconds.
In fact, stbxw said she looked me up on FB before and mentioned that "Callasdad and his W must be improving" cause she saw DB on my FB page. Apparently OM looked shocke when she said it.
This guy is a complete wuss, it seems. perfect for W
(OM told his stbxw that he was spending a little time with W over beer cause "they are having some M problems and going to MT)
You're right - she might do just that, glad you thought about that. It'd be nice if she had some support herself - but you don't want her giving the two of them this piece of gold thread you've got here!
You don't think, with DB on your page, that she'll search this and find this anyway, do you???
Maybe you can at least recommend some books and other materials for her. ???
Try to give her a break, because of her age, lol. (I know it's got to be frustrating to not have a competent ally that you thought you might have.)
You really don't need OM's W anymore, do you? You have your proof. You've busted the special little vacation for the adulterers...time to bring your L up to speed. Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
I've been following along and wished I'D been as organized and methodical as you when I tried to expose. Maybe my situation would be very different.
I've been chuckling for days about the "infidelus interruptus", and all the details about OM age, doesn't want kids, etc. This has disaster written all over it, and you've just shoved them toward the cliff. I can hear the Jaws "dun dun, dun dun dun dun" music playing from here, lol. Good job!
As for OMW - you gotta cut her some slack. Not only is she VERY young, but she also doesn't have all of the knowledge and experience that you've gained by posting here and interacting with others. Just keep contact to a minimum so she doesn't unknowingly cause problems for you.
